Many people have thought about what type of funeral they’d like for themselves.
Whether you choose to formally make advance arrangements or not, it is very important to let family and/or friends know what it is you want your funeral to be like. Chances are a lot greater that your wishes will be carried out if people know what those wishes are.
There are several important elements to record to ensure your wishes are carried out:
Last Will and Testament
- Contact an attorney to have a will written or make updates to an older one. Be sure family and friends know your attorney’s name and where the will is filed.
- The final disposition is the way the remains are finally handled. Make it clear how you would like your remains taken care of: burial (42.4% in 2022; NY), cremation (53.5% in 2022; NY), or Natural Organic Reduction (NOR). NOR is an accelerated method of human decomposition. This new technology and process involves placing deceased human bodies in vessels where they are covered with wood chips and aerated, transforming the bodies into soil. The State is in the regulatory process and how NOR works in New York is evolving. Therefore, facilities are not currently set up and equipped to perform this type of disposition.
- Record the name of the cemetery or where you would like your cremated remains to be placed, address and phone number; plot number and location; name on plot purchase; and location of deed.
Funeral Home Details
- Record names of funeral home and funeral director, address and phone number.
- If pre-arrangements were made, record contract # and location of filed contract.
What type of service chosen?
- Where is it to be held (church, funeral home, other)?
- Will it be a military service?
- Will you have visitation/calling hours?
- Names of clergy and pallbearers chosen.
- List selections of music, clothing, flowers, memorials/contributions and any other personal preferences.
- The necessary information to record is: full name, address, phone number; years of residency; birth information (city, state/province, date); Social Security Number; full names of father and mother (maiden); marital status and name of spouse; religious and fraternal affiliations; education information; employment history; family members; location of birth and marriage certificates and adoption papers.
- Be sure to locate a copy of the DD-214 (Discharge/Separation Papers) and make record of: branch; date entered and discharged; grade/rank; place of entry; war or conflict; decorations; pension and disability claim numbers; flag requested; and veteran’s cemetery marker
- Does the executor know of their role? Record their name, address, phone number.
Department of Motor Vehicles
- Record the location and phone number or the department and list all vehicles registered in your name.
- List any licensed/registered handguns. Who/where should they go?
Plans for Pets
- Have you made arrangements for pets/animals?